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Most people want to be heard and understood but rarely take the time to listen and be genuinely interested.

The conversation is the most fundamental and powerful way to make relationships and friendships.

And it’s one of the few arenas that requires genuine passion to succeed.

The more you give, the more you get, and often when you focus on others, you find you get more back from them in return.

In the 21st century, building relationships is a top priority.

The number of lonely people has been steadily growing, and a substantial number of people are trying to “kill loneliness.”

After all, friends are far better than family.

So, the next time you find yourself around a group of people that you don’t know well, try being the best conversationalist around.

Start by making a few of the people in the group feel welcomed.

The rules of good conversation are as follows:

Learn what you don’t know

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It’s ok to admit your knowledge base is limited at times. But do it in a way that doesn’t sound like an excuse.

Let others speak. Be willing to share the best stories you have about yourself, and the others in the group.

Be willing to share the best stories you have about yourself, and the others in the group.

Do not interrupt

There is a beautiful art to listening well. People are not trying to annoy you with their story; they are trying to connect with you.

Don’t be too social. Social conversation is important, but it’s a skill that you have to learn.

While it may be easy to talk to people about your job or the crazy conversations you’ve been having, you have to learn how to tell a great story.

Social conversation is important, but it’s a skill that you have to learn.

While it may be easy to talk to people about your job or the crazy conversations you’ve been having, you have to learn how to tell a great story.

Practice what you preach

No one likes a fake person.

What you tell your friends and family should mirror what you are communicating to others.

This is known as being a mirror for others.

It doesn’t matter if you are a millennial or a boomer, we all have the same need for meaningful conversations with people that we have a connection.

For you, it may be sharing how you made it through that long, last year, but what about the other person?

Maybe it’s a sense of loss over the loss of a loved one or the new path your life has taken.

In any case, it’s a safe bet that it has had an impact on their life, and they are eager to share their story.

Just take the time to listen

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Listen to the other person and you’ll hear what they are saying, and be able to communicate your version.

It’s so much better when you hear the other person out, rather than you trying to tell them your story or persuade them to agree with you.

Always keep a smile on your face

This is a great way to help you come off as more sincere.

Keep this in mind while you are talking to someone in a bar. You can still smile and be cheerful even if you are talking to someone who may not share your preference in drinks.

When looking for the right conversation, to begin with, but a bit of thought into it.

Many people think they want to talk to someone in the bar when in actuality they want to talk to the bartender.

While the bartender may not be able to offer great advice for the conversation you are trying to have, they do understand that bar going.

That makes them a great connection point for your potential conversation partner.

Use specific topics that you can find in common with your potential conversation partner. Keep this in mind as you look at people around you.

It is always great to find a person that has the same sense of humor as you.

Look at everyone you can and find that sense of humor you can enjoy conversing with.

Keep the flow going

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The flow of conversation is what moves people from one topic to the next.

It’s also what keeps people engaged. To do this, you need to know what topics will keep people talking and how you can talk about those topics with them in a compelling manner.

Keep track of the big picture. If you want to keep people engaged, make sure you are keeping them on track with the big picture.

Sometimes people will lose focus or drift off. This is when you need to ask them to clarify or continue the conversation.

This will keep them engaged. Bring people back.

If people seem to have drifted off, bring them back and get them talking again.

You can also bring them back by bringing up the same topic from the last time you spoke.

People love to speak about what they’re excited about.

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