The more successful we become, the more expectations, and judgment we feel, so the success comes with many people we come to know.

It can feel like we have to start becoming friends with everybody around us.

Many of us become discouraged when we lose touch with some of our old friends.

We become depressed about our lack of contact with these people.

We ask ourselves what we have done to cause this loss of contact, and if we did something wrong to cause this.

The answer is, that it is completely normal to lose some of your friends when you become successful.

Some of the causes are outside of our control. The death of a family member or a loss of a job can have a big effect on friendships.

Here are some tips on how you can win back some of the friends you have lost:

Accept that it is normal

Saturday. Summer. Beautiful sunny day, so my friends and I decided to make a picnic and watch the sundown. Pretty fun and relaxed day.

Accepting that it is normal to lose some of your friends is a big part of understanding the true motivation for people abandoning you.

They may be embarrassed about their own lives, their choices, or the outcome of their decision-making.

The truth is that everyone wants a friend, and everyone wants to be liked.

So if you don’t like your friends, that is ok, and most likely they don’t like you either. It is human nature.

You are no more worthy of friendship than anyone else. If people don’t like you, it’s probably because they don’t like you.

Some people don’t like the pressure that comes with friendship. They don’t like the time, effort, or money that goes into it.

The best thing to do when you lose some friends is to stop feeling guilty.

If they can’t handle the pressure and you aren’t willing to work on your friendship, just keep doing what you do best – serving others.

Accept that they have their reasons

The people that are leaving you, are probably doing so for a reason.

Sometimes we lose friends because of something we did or something we said, sometimes we lose friends because our lives are going in different directions, or we are going in different directions.

People come and go, so it is perfectly normal for people to part ways.

Once you accept this fact, you can begin to accept what they are doing and why.

Accept the new people that are entering your life

two women sitting beside table and talking

 

When we lose a friend, we often feel like we must then start reaching out to all of the new people that they are bringing into our lives.

This is natural, and of course, you should let them know that you are happy for them.

However, you have to accept that sometimes these new people are not going to be good friends for you.

Many times, we try to force friendships.

We take on these new relationships and force them to be our friends because we believe that we can make it happen.

We believe that we are special enough, or that we are the people that people want in their life.

But really, the friendships that we are losing, are ending because the person cannot handle their life and we have to take a step back.

Don’t try to change your friend. Don’t expect more of them, and don’t expect less of yourself.

There will always be people that can’t be accepted in our lives. You cannot force yourself to be friends with every single person that you meet.

However, you can begin to treat people who are not your friends the way that you want to be treated. You can choose to be accepting of their decisions and their behavior.

You can choose to forgive them and to be friends.

You don’t have to be willing to accept every friend that comes your way.

If the person is a good friend, then they are worth fighting for but be careful that you don’t replace one bad friendship with another one.

Learn to laugh at your friend’s mistakes

people laughing and talking outside during daytime

Nobody gets everything right all of the time. Sometimes you are going to get a friend that doesn’t behave very well.

But rather than getting angry at your friend, take a moment to think about why they did what they did.

It may be that they were scared, or that they were hurt, or that they were trying to do the right thing.

Whatever the reason, they did the best that they could, and you have to appreciate that.

Not only that, but you can try to laugh with them. When they apologize for their mistakes, or when they laugh at the situation that they are in, you can take joy in their human nature.

You can laugh with them, because it is human nature to react the way that they did, and it is a great thing to be able to laugh about.

Stop punishing yourself

The worst thing that you can do when a friend leaves you is to punish yourself. When you punish yourself, you allow yourself to think about it all of the time.

You allow yourself to put yourself in the wrong, and it can be very hard to move past it.

When you think about what happened, you can forgive them. You can forgive yourself.

You can let yourself off the hook. You can forgive each other. You can start to heal your heart.

When we forgive, we are forced to let go. We are forced to let go of the past, and the negativity of it.

When we forgive, we are free from the stress of being angry at ourselves for what we did, and we can move on with our lives.

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